Did you know there’s a positive side to anger? Most of us try to avoid it as much as possible because it feels bad to be angry or to have others angry with us. Actually, there’s an important purpose to anger.
Anger is a spontaneous emotion that acts like a personal security alarm when it sounds it alerts us that there may be danger about. Like our home security systems, most alarms are false, but you don’t know till you investigate further.
The same is true with anger Most of the time there is a misunderstanding or misjudgment that’s created a false alarm. Yet, if its a real intruder, you want to know so you can protect yourself. When you feel angry, it means there’s a-potential violation and you must explore to discover if there’s real danger or its a false alarm.On the other hand, if we believe every alarm is real, our natural sense of trust will be compromised. When this happens, we invite unnecessary anxiety.
When you notice you’re feeling angry Do 3 things:
1) Fully allow the feeling and give your body permission to express it safely (writing or movement)
2) Discern if there’s a real danger about or whether you or others are misunderstanding the situation.
3) Take steps to keep yourself emotionally safe
Then use these techniques to manage anger effectively:
- Talking with others
- Getting clear about your boundaries (with yourself and possibly speaking them with others)
- Making requests and responding to others requests
Next time you feel angry Express-Discern-Act to keep yourself emotional safe!
Positive side to anger?
Most of us try to avoid because it
–feels bad but there is an important purpose to anger.
- spontaneous an emotional security alarm
–home security systems, most alarms are false,
–its a real intruder, you want to know
— and we must explore
- every alarm is real, our
–sense of trust in life will be compromised.
3 things you can do when you’re angry:
1) Express it safely body) (writing or movement)
2) Discern if there’s a real danger
3) Act to keep yourself emotionally safe
- talking n Listening with the person(s),
- boundaries (own mind or verbally,
- making requests
Anger helps us grow and maintain our own inner safety So the next time you’re angry take a moment to *Express, *Discern, *Act to keep yourself safe